I Worry A Lot – How To Stop

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Because you know you worry a lot, I know you don’t think your chronic worrying is altering anything in life or existence?

Face it: Worry is no more than a life stealing addiction. The addiction is mental and affects your health and life. 

I am not going to waste your time with how worry is affecting your:

  • Anxiety levels
  • Health
  • Relationships
  • Career
  • Sleep
  • Driving ability
  • And God knows what else?

You already know that.  What I am going to do is to give you a few ideas that will start you on the path to relief from chronic worry.

What you’re really doing with worry is projecting the failures of the past, or the doom of the future into your own life, and perhaps the lives of others. The following tips will help you stop worrying so much.

How To Stop Worrying A Lot

Worry is first and foremost a continuous streaming of thoughts and conversations concerning the future and the past—in your head. So, what you’re looking for are methods to stop it and get into now and that’s what we’re going to talk about.

1. Start Meditating

A lot of worrying means you have a lot of non stop head chatter.  A regular regime of 45 minutes of focused meditation is the door into your chatter.

This is where you learn that head chatter labors to overwhelm you and how to dismiss and ignore it.  

Never learned how to meditate? Need some guidance?

Because meditation opens a door into yourself that otherwise remains closed, it should be the first step into breaking the addiction of agreeing with negative thoughts.

When you are agreeing with yourself in your head it’s like inviting people into your home that you didn’t want there? And you can stop the conversation and stop inviting more negativity.

2. Stop Agreeing With Yourself

Understanding the difference between thinking and worrying is a milestone in pushing this demon out of your life.  

Thinking is to intentionally use your mind to objectively evaluate a given situation in order to gain from an end result.

Because there is no such thing as worrying with a positive out come, worry is always negative and mentally playing with negative results.

Thinking and worrying are two different actions of the mind.  You and only you have the power to mentally say to the worrisome chatter and statements in your head — NO!

I do not agree with that!

All Worry is either projecting negativity into the future or the past.  There is no such thing as worrying in the present moment.

3. Learn Mindfulness

Mindfulness is not meditation.  

Mindfulness is the practice of drinking coffee when you are drinking coffee, showering when you are showering, or brushing your teeth when you are brushing your teeth.

I can almost assure myself that if you’re worrying a lot, that’s not how you live life.

What worriers do is spend the time they are brushing our teeth going over negative results of the past or the future.

Practicing mindfulness is the practice of being present in the very moment you are breathing in, and no other.

If you think about it, chronic worry is like a private hobby you can do no matter what else you are doing.

When you force your mind to focus on the simplest acts you are engaged in, it can’t entertain the guest in your head; the ruminating thoughts.  And that’s all mindfulness is — being mentally present.

4. Keep A Journal

Keeping a journal is paramount when it comes to any personal growth or empowerment.

Five or ten minutes a day to handwrite what happens to be going on in your head makes you conscious of hidden ideas.  

Your journal needs to be your most private possession, because it needs to be you innermost self transformed to a sheet of paper. This journal is the place to “let it all hang out”.

Record whatever comes up, anger, joy, excitement, resentments, hate, fears, worries, etc. Whatever comes out is you, so do not deny it.  

Denial stops all growth. Getting it out on handwritten on paper in journal makes room for more positive energy to enter your life.

5. Fill Your Mind With Positive Energy

Worrying always comes from abstract fears deep within your subconscious mind.   Anybody who worries a lot is living in fear based head chatter.  

You will never be able to live your life without head chatter coming from your subconscious mind.

Changing the ongoing conversation deletes a place for worry and as a bonus gives you an opportunity to manage your anxiety without medication.

That’s why it’s imperative that you begin the act of forcing new information into your mind. Give your mind something positive to ruminate on.  

I’m not too much into “positive” thinking, but I am in to memorizing positive quotes and reading the bible out loud every day.

These force feed your mind with positive energy and learning to be grateful will change your life, along with the lives of people around you. 

6. Practice Gratitude

Gratitude is the key to living a life free of worry and fears.

Learning to be grateful for every single thing that comes into your life will fill you with something unexplainable and magnificent.

In a state of gratitude there is no envy, no fear, and no place for worry to reside.

As you increase your attitude of gratitude you begin to sense that everything in life is a gift.

You start to see that there is no place to blame yourself for failures or need to worry about the future.  Gratitude is truly the door to the greatest life possible, and the more you practice the wider the door opens.

Summary

Breaking the addiction to worrying a lot doesn’t happen overnight, and takes your undivided attention.

Once you start you will see that you are splintering it into smaller bite size pieces to overcome, and nothing happens until you begin.

What about you? What methods are you using now for anxiety relief? Tell us how you’re dealing with anxiety attacks in the comments below.

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